Her husband took a terrible secret to his grave. How did Nola Duncan not know?
The day Nola Duncan married her husband in 1981 was the happiest day of her life. Michael was Nola's 'perfect man' – a good father; a wonderful host, cook and raconteur; a devoted husband and caring lover; a good friend and a committed Christian.
Throughout their thirty-year marriage, Michael, a deeply romantic man, wrote Nola copious love notes, letters and poems. So when he died suddenly of a cardiac arrest in 2010, her grief was profound. The funeral service overflowed with people who loved and admired him; the eulogies were effusive.
Heartbroken, Nola picked her way through early widowhood and on the first anniversary of his death she buried his ashes in a plot with room for hers. Then she set about clearing out his things.
In a box marked 'research papers' Nola found something that would shatter her life; 741 love letters between Michael and his lover, evidence of his passionate six-year affair with a young woman 23 years his junior.
Nola's emotional pain and distress as she read the letters, many of them erotic and sexually explicit, was compounded on discovering one of the most meaningful poems he'd written for her, he'd also given his lover. The lovers believed their affair was the 'Great Love' and their 'soul marriage' God-sanctioned.
Until now, Nola has remained silent about Michael's betrayal of everything and everyone they knew. There are many unanswered questions in this story: why did he keep the letters? Can a man love two women at once? But there's one she knows she will always be asked – how could she not have known? But hand on her heart, she didn't.
4 of 5 The Widow
I finally had a chance to read this book and holy eff I could not contain the anger and sadness that came with reading this memoir. let me just say this that this book had me thinking how do you really know who you love and marry. I mean crap this book had me thinking I have been married for 14 years and I have been with my husband 17 years and if I ever had to experience what Nola did I think I would be in jail because my anger would definitely get the better of me.
In The Widow we meet Nola and Michael they have a love affair and marriage that you rarely hear about but that once you hear it you want it. Michael did everything from love letters to writing his wife poems. He was the ideal husband until he died suddenly from a heart attack and left Nola all alone to grieve and mourn her husband. Then a year later she is cleaning out the things he has left behind when she finds a box marked research papers and finds that her life with her husband was a lie because he was a rat bastard cheating son of a monkey!
See Michael had a six year long affair with one of his students. He sent her letters and poems just like he did with his wife. Nola is devastated to say the least.She can not believe that the man she was married to could do such a thing to her. She could not believe she was living a lie and to make matters worse Michael is dead so she can't ask him about the affair or the woman he was with.
To say that this was an eye opener is truly an understatement. I mean I would go crazy and have to find this woman and demand answers. I laughed and I cried but this was such a sad sad story. It is not for the weak of heart.